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Grown Up Stickers

When Ally was a baby I purchased zoo animal themed wall stickers for her bedroom. At some point during our multiple moves we landed in a place that was less than sticker friendly for the walls and I instead transferred those stickers to her four-drawer dresser. As she aged and began helping to dress herself, pick out her clothes or put her laundry away we used the animal stickers as a reference to which drawer items belonged in.

“Can you get out socks please? They are in the zebra drawer.”

“Yes sweetie, your pyjamas go in the rhinoceros drawer.”

 

Today, during nap time, Kira ripped all of the stickers off of Ally’s dresser. Ally was so sad about it (and so was I) that we headed off on the ridiculously long walk to the dollar store. She picked new, different stickers and we hauled slow bum home to put them on.

As I sat on the floor next to my now 4 year old daughter I silently remembered all of the places the old stickers had been with us, the learning tools they were, even the pictures that they appeared in – and they were gone. Then I watched my quite suddenly grown up little girl, peeling and sticking her own carefully chosen stickers on to her dresser in whichever places she thought looked best.

Gone are the days of brightly coloured, extraordinarily happy zoo animals. Gone are the bright green tufts of grass, and gone are the days of referring to a drawer by animal instead of order.

Now the dresser is covered in chic flowers, silver and pink with the occasional shiny pink diamond accent. Pyjamas now go in the third drawer, bedding in the fourth. Ally’s dresser is no longer labelled with 10 bubble letters spelling her name, but is instead just assumed to be hers by this little adult who needs no direction.

She’s only four, but it seems like an eternity has passed. I don’t want to mourn the loss of other tiny things, but I know it will happen. At least I can come here to cry.

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Tattle tales: how to nip it in the bud

Increase the cost of telling tales

Give your preschooler some work to do when he tells tales. When he comes running to you with news of his sibling’s dastardly (but not dangerous) doings, for instance, you might tell him to draw a picture of the deed and leave it on the table, where you’ll look at it later. The chances are, he’ll decide that the time and effort this entails just isn’t worth it. If what he wants is your attention, tell him you’ll be happy to listen to anything he wants to tell you about himself but not about his friend or sibling – unless they’re in danger, of course.

via Tattle tales: how to nip it in the bud.

This is a pretty helpful little guide! Ally has been doing this a lot lately, I think I’m going to bookmark this page to reference. Perhaps daily…….

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Blog Tag

If this was a real game of tag, I would be the fat kid left at the bottom of the flight of stairs. Panting.

Grandmalin at Breathing Space tagged me to play Blog Tag on July 17. I’ll let that sink in. So here I am, almost two months later, finally trying to take a crack at it. Being less lazy at cleaning makes me epically lazy at blogging. Sheesh.

THANK YOU GRANDMALIN!!! It was very nice of you to tag me, and I really do appreciate it – even if I’m super lazy and you may have thought that I forgot or decided not to do it. This is a lot of work, after all… huzzah!!!

The rules for playing blog tag are….

  • You must post the rules
  • Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post
  • Create eleven new questions to ask the people you’ve tagged (or use the existing ones)
  • Tag (eleven) people with a link to your post
  • Let them know they’ve been tagged

HOKAI! Here are the questions that I’ve been given:

1.  When is the last time you did something for the first time? Hermmmmmmm…….well, for Phil’s birthday we went to Wonderland and I rode Leviathan for the first time, alternatively I put my arms UP on several roller coasters for the first time. That would have been one month ago.

2.  What would your life be incomplete without? My family! If I had to choose a material possession I would sayyyyyyyy my camera. Or coffee. Probably my camera though.

3. What is your greatest fear? Dying. Leaving my kids because I’ve died and then having them deal with the ensuing mess. Maybe even having them live in different houses after my death.

4.  What makes you smile or laugh out loud? Phil. And when my kids try to be funny, or are funny accidentally.

5.  What’s your worst habit, and what are you doing to change it? My worst habit has been having angry outbursts. I have had to try to relearn how to deal with my anger so that I can teach my children to deal with their anger appropriately.

6.  Who (or what) is your best friend? Aunt Jodi is my bestest friend ever and we didn’t even like each other six years ago. Phil is also my best friend, but I named him second because his main title is “boyfriend”.

7.  What makes you sad (or mad) enough to cry (or punch somebody)? Sad enough to cry? Pretty much anything that shows a parent losing their child or a child being exceptionally amazing at life. Mad enough to punch somebody? Liars.

8.  If you owned a boat, what would you name it? Ally says she’d name her boat “Cana”. The spelling is improvised by me. Kira says she’d name her boat “Lifejacket”. I guess I’d have to name my boat “Cana Lifejacket” and I would require that everyone aboard wore lifejackets. It doesn’t matter how well you can swim if you’re unconscious…

9.  What’s your proudest accomplishment? Other than raising my kids? Ermmmm enrolling in school.

10.  What did you want to be when you grew up and how did that work our for you? A mom! And it’s going pretty well, thanks. My back up plan was to be a teacher, and I’m beginning that journey as well.

11.  If you were making a movie about your life, what actors would you chose to play yourself and your significant other(s)? A movie about my life. Hmmm. I’m not too versed in all of the actorly people out there… I would want to be played by Jennifer Garner. I think she’s could capture me being happy and silly, as well as be able to produce the darker more painful sides of my life.

I guess I would cast Ryan Reynolds to play Phil because he’s versatile enough to show Phil’s softer mushy side while still capturing his sense of humour and intense passion.

(Question number 12 is Do you hate me for tagging you?  but you can skip that one if you think I won’t like the answer.) No, I don’t. I’m flattered. 😀

 

I’m going to tag eleven people before I write my eleven questions. Here are the people who I TAG to play Blog Tag.

Psst….you’re it!

  1. sillyliss
  2. wifemothereventplanner
  3. Jestidwell’s Blog
  4. Fine Frugality
  5. Pa-BLAM
  6. Don’t Forget to Feed the Baby
  7. themotherofnine
  8. The High Need Baby Blog
  9. no time for ironing
  10. bobthemartian
  11. Perfectly imperfect momma

And now, my lovely and participational friends, my questions for you:

  1. I’m not big on having regrets. What was your biggest regret and why do you think that it helped you to get where you are today? After all, if you had changed it, something else about you would have changed.
  2. Where is your favourite place to be?
  3. How much money do you spend on groceries every month?
  4. Is there an errand that you hate running with a particular vengeance?
  5. Have you ever had surgery? And for what?
  6. What day is garbage day?
  7. Are your parents married? Divorced? Married to other people?
  8. Fill in the blanks. I think people are ___________ when they ___________.
  9. Do you have a recurring dream? About what?
  10. Have you started your Christmas (or other winter holiday) shopping?
  11. Do you have a particular trait, characteristic, etc. that you do NOT want to pass on to your kids?

There we are. Musings from my twisted mind. Huzzah!

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The Mom Pledge

I am proud to be a mom. I will conduct myself with integrity in all my online activities. I can lead by example.

I pledge to treat my fellow moms with respect. I will acknowledge that there is no one, “right” way to be a good mom. Each woman makes the choices best for her family.

I believe a healthy dialogue on important issues is a good thing. I will welcome differing opinions when offered in a respectful, non-judgmental manner. And will treat those who do so in kind.

I stand up against cyber bullying. My online space reflects who I am and what I believe in. I will not tolerate comments that are defamatory, hateful or threatening.

I refuse to give those who attack a platform. I will remove their remarks with no mention or response. I can take control.

I want to see moms work together to build one another up, not tear each other down. Words can be used as weapons. I will not engage in that behavior.

I affirm that we are a community. As a member, I will strive to foster goodwill among moms. Together, we can make a difference.

 

I am tired of trying to explain my choices to other people because I am afraid that they are judging me. And I am tired of making excuses for other people because I am afraid that they may think I am judging them. I want to do what is best for my children because I love them. If you can say the same thing about your children then we are all doing just fine.

Thank you for being a loving, thoughtful parent to your children.

Want to take the pledge?

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A Month In Groceries – June 2012

I thought I would summarize and reflect on how my first public month of budgeting our grocery bill went. For the first step I am going to compile all of the groceries that were purchased this first month.

Under budget, for the month of June, we bought:

  • 1 celery
  • 1 cabbage
  • 9 cans of tomato sauce
  • 9 tomatoes
  • hamburger buns
  • 15 lbs apples
  • 4 bricks of cheese
  • 8 bags of 1% milk
  • 4 bags of 2% milk
  • 4 bags of homogenized milk
  • 2 cans of mixed beans
  • 6 cans of tuna
  • 3 loaves of bread
  • 1 package of sausage buns
  • 500mL 10% cream
  • 1 box crackers
  • 1 package of bacon
  • 6 green peppers
  • 4 boxes of cereal
  • 36 eggs
  • 1 package of breakfast sausage
  • 1 jar of instant coffee
  • 10 sausages
  • 24 rolls of toilet paper
  • 2 BBQ sauces
  • 3 red peppers
  • 6 pork chops
  • 2 limes
  • 6 avocados
  • one bag of perogies
  • one bag of yellow onions
  • one bag of potatoes
  • one carton of grape tomatoes
  • mayonnaise
  • 2 jalapeno peppers

GRAND TOTAL: $238.69

MINUS the grocery shop that Phil paid for (or half of camping) = $191.30 out of my pocket. That is amazing! My grocery budget is $50 per week, or $200 per month, and I came in $8.70 shy! With full disclosure, I did purchase buns and sloppy joe mix at the dollar store this week because I was there and it looked sooooo good; and also two cans of mini corns. So that cost me an additional $5.09 – still under budget!

I also want to take into consideration items such as bacon ($3.00), breakfast sausage ($4.49), instant coffee ($6.47), 3 loaves of bread ($5.91), and at least 18 of those eggs ($4.47) are not purchases that I would normally make, were it not for camping. That would make a difference of ($24.34) in the monthly shop.

This upcoming month we will have to purchase more meat. Throughout June we were using up the frozen meat that I had stocked up on during a huge discount sale, and I am sad to say that we are down to our last three pounds of ground beef, and that is all. I threw an idea at Phil today, that perhaps we should do a big meat purchase soon; deduct the total from the $200 monthly allotted; and then divide the remainder evenly over the four weeks.

Changes for July:

  • 2% milk instead of homogenized for the entire month (approximate savings of $8 per month)
  • reducing the amount of milk that the children are allowed to drink (they prefer it to real food anyhow, and I often have to feed their meals to the dog. This is already encouraging more solid consumption, hahaha, and I’ve only been doing it for two days)
  • keep an eye open for a great price on canned tomato sauce and stock up (buy at least ten for the month, but spend no more than $16.80 (which is $1.68/can – what I spent maximum/can this month))
  • make all of the loaves of bread we will need (no more store bought for any reason)
  • replace crackers with homemade biscuits for snacks

I am hopeful for July, but I am also realistic. Both girls have birthdays in July, and we are having one of their birthday parties this month. I’m going to try to keep it cheap without seeming so, but I am also allotting a little extra this month into a ‘Party Fund’. Currently there is $31 in it. Wooo.

So, how do you think I did this month? Feedback. Constructive criticism. Props. I’ll take ’em all.

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